Anyway, it's taken quite a bit of time to learn the ropes of this whole long-distance thing and I'm not gonna lie, it really sucks... but I thought I'd share some things that have helped Thiago and I. I know, I know... this is a really girly post of me, but when we were beginning to be in a long-distace relationship, I found a couple of blog things that talked about long-distance and they really helped! So here it goes...
1. They are going to have a life! And you are too. Sitting in front of your computer waiting for your boyfriend (or girlfriend... but I don't feel like this is the kind of thing guys like to read... but okay.) is the worst thing to do. All you do is get mad at him for not sitting at his computer waiting for you. Try to set a time to skype (or oovoo - that works better sometimes) and don't pressure each other to get online every single night. Know that they have friends and work and school or whatever and they can't always be online waiting for you. And know that you have to go out as well. You can't say no to every social outing just to talk to your guy. You need a life outside of skype.
2. Trust. You're gonna get jealous. There are other girls in the world and he's probably going to have a conversation with some of them. He might take pictures with other girls or go to a party where there are girls or something, I don't know. Things that he does with other girls seem like such a big deal when in a long-distance relationship, but you know that if y'all were together it wouldn't be anything at all. That's just part of it. Just take a deep breath and think about how much he loves you. And shrug it off. Calma!
3. It's gonna get boring. Sometimes you won't have anything to talk about. Your skype calls may be as follows:
"Hey! How was your day?"
"It was pretty normal... school, work... that's it. How was yours?"
"Mine was normal too..."
"......."
"................."
Don't think there's anything wrong with your relationship. Just calma! I mean, there's nothing that entertaining to do on skype... and think about it... when you're together, talking isn't always the main thing you do... so be creative! Thiago and I go on dates sometimes via Skype. Some of our date ideas are:
- eating the same food for dinner (try to find a time that you can both eat... like 5 here and 8 there works) and renting the same movie and watching it together.
- playing "I Never" or "truth or dare" (although... just doing truths usually works best haha)
- watching youtube videos together
- playing games on www.megajogos.com.br (where you can actually play games together!)
4. Be spontaneous! Surprise each other during the day. Send texts. They're expensive, but they're cute and if you do them every once in a while it's worth it. We've made each other youtube videos. I wrote Thiago a rap song once. We send pictures to each other and email. Sometimes we'll send stuff to each other... but for special, special, special occasions (like birthdays) because it's expensive! Do things for the other person to know that you are thinking about them and you love them.
5. Know that it's worth it. Long distance relationships are hard, but when you're back together.... mmmm... there's nothing like it. You're in this together and you have to work at it. You'll fight and there will be misunderstandings, but keep holding on because it is most definitely worth it.
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